I have been having some discussions with a journalist regarding possible features articles in different publications. She felt there was definite mileage in placing feature articles in popular weekly women’s publications, and newspaper weekend magazines. She felt this could lead to radio interviews and even ‘This Morning’.
My only reason for doing any publicity is to promote the book and make book sales – naturally. Those of you who have been following my blog for some time will know that the reason I am even here, doing any of this is to education and encourage understanding, acceptance and integration. More book sales hopefully means helping moving things towards this.
What we learnt from the Marie Claire article was that no matter how well written and tastefully done, people’s curiosity will, forgivably, be drawn to photographs of Nicci. Ironically the ‘difference’ of such a feature promotes behavior which is incongruent with integration.
I naively assumed that as the author of the book I could do publicity on my own and didn’t need my partner to tag along, avoiding the sensationalist attention a feature with us both seems impossible to avoid. There is just one snag, in the glossy world of magazine’s I am not wanted on my own. They want ‘us’
Yes the book is of course about our relationship and you could argue, and the media would, that Nicci and I are a publicity package. My inspiration for writing the book however was sharing a story with the world of the perspective of a woman in a relationship with someone transgender. It is MY story. But it is so much more than this; about how the unusual grounding of the relationship has helped me grow, helped me become more confident and hope that this would inspire people to strengthen their relationships.
There is more than one way to skin a cat and regulars must know by now how tenacious I can be. So I had a conversation with a contact of mine and she was encouragingly positive. She agreed I should be bold with a different angle; convince the quality paper weekend magazines to be progressive – to put it crudely we need to move on from staring at the ‘bloke in a dress’ and forward thinking of looking at it from the perspective of ‘women who choose transgender partners’.
My contact suggested this could work if I approach the paper with a few stories from other women, which can be anonymous, as long as I am happy to be photographed and provide the pictures they would want for a glossy feature.
Some of you might have already seen where this is going…
…If any women would be interested in writing their experience, get in touch with me and I can let you know more details. Actually my task aside, it would be great to read your experiences.