I have been busy over the Christmas period on some other transgender sites and along the way I can see I have picked up some new readers, welcome and Happy New Year to you all.
My belief is that the more of us who are ‘out’, whether you are partners of someone transgender or transgender yourself and share our stories the better. Together we can help those who are still in the closet and let’s face it are where we once were. I bet there are some real beauties amongst you out there for which it’s virtually a crime for you to be hiding away.
I’ve been doing all the talking for too long, send me something to post and let’s start sharing. For the more shy amongst you I have added my email address to my ‘about me’ page and I am happy to answer any questions you have, or just lend a friendly listening ear. I have made some really good contacts in the last week and I hope to make some improved changes to the site in the future with links to other organisations if you are on here looking for more advice.
Let’s get down to the business of this weeks blog. Nearly all of the trans women/couples I know or chat to on line have children and so they all face the debate of when, how, if, at what age, etc to tell the children. My view is that yes you should tell children. What are you afraid of by not telling them? Also you are fooling yourselves if you think that they don’t know something is already going on. By not telling them they may worry about what this secret is that Mummy and Daddy are hiding from them. Also by the very nature of keeping it a secret you are teaching them there is something wrong with being transgender.
It is long overdue that transgender is more accepted and the next generation will be the ones helping this movement. As parents you have a duty to teach children all the wonders of the world and celebrate the differences between people. I know, I know; if you are not out and if your children are young and if you are open about one of you being trans it will only be a matter of time before the children say something in public, that’s a lot of if’s when it could be an opportunity for you to start living your lives true.
You may be reading this thinking ‘easy for you to say, your ‘out’’. Yes but all of us who are ‘out’, were very much ‘in’ at some point and if you stop living your life according to fear, you may find it is not as hard as you think. Sure it’s uncomfortable at first but I promise you it gets easier and it is not long before you start feeling liberated and free. And what a gift to give your children, the lesson to live your life being true to who you are.
Disagree with me? then put your two pence worth in…Until next weeks usual Friday blog, have a good week xx